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Well meaning bullying

Did you see the brilliant rebuttal by Jennifer Livingston to the bullying letter she received about her health?

I got into a ‘discussion’ on Facebook with someone who felt quite strongly that the letter was just one man’s opinion, not bullying.

I’d like to respond with a definition:

Use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants.

The way I see it, this letter writer used his perceived influence as someone with societal norms on his side to influence (and intimidate-using her local influence and failure to conform to norms as a point of shame) this lovely woman to the behavior that he thinks she should display.

What is really special about this story isn’t that it happened. Things like this happen every day. People think it is ok to comment on the contents of our grocery carts. People think it is ok to walk up to us on the street and point out that there is something ‘wrong’ with us. Random strangers will point out that we’re really fat. Like we somehow missed that.

What is special, and memorable, is that she stood up to fight back. She didn’t hang her head or just take it. She used her public platform to do exactly what a good role model should. She fought back. She stood up, not only for herself, but for others who don’t have her visibility, or her thick skin.

She says two things that I want to highlight.

You don’t know anything about be but what you see on that outside.

Don’t let your self worth be defined by bullies.

I applaud her for taking a stand. I hope she continues to serve as a brilliant role model.

I also want to share this brief interview, because she says some good things, and her husband is giving beautiful unqualified support, just as it should be.


Comments on: "Well meaning bullying" (1)

  1. Awww, they are such a cute couple!

    Sad that she is probably on that T4 only stuff though.

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